Laughter is a great way to bringing down barriers between two people. It shows that two people are making progress towards developing a friendly interpersonal relationship. When you can make a woman laugh at something you say, it indicates that she feels comfortable around you and is ready to open up emotionally to what you have to say. Therefore, a good way to get on a good start with women is to work on your sense of humor and think of saying the appropriate thing at the appropriate time to make her laugh. Don’t worry, women are not aliens. They have emotions too. However, they may not share the same sense of humor your pals down at the bar. You may need to really watch where you put your foot when trying to open up the relationship.
What Not to Say
Before considering what you could say to make a woman laugh, it is important to identify things that are a big no-no when it comes to humor when you are trying to establish a relationship. Three things that you should never joke around on: politics and religion, sex, physical appearance. Politics and religion are very personal objects and in many cases you might not be able to tell where someone’s inclination may lie just from casual conversation. Avoid making jokes about political leaders or religious beliefs and practices that you might regret later on. Keep the bawdy jokes for the guys and don’t try them out on your new date. In some cases, sexual innuendos may be fine, but there is always the risk of coming across as crass if you don’t do it subtly. Play it safe and stay away from explicitly sexual jokes. Finally, it is not a good idea to make someone feel comfortable about their appearance by joking about it. Give some credit to people for being able to communicate with you for what you stand for. It is even wrong to crack jibes about your own appearance even if you mean to do it in a humorous self-deprecating manner. Find some other way to show you are a modest, humble soul and spare others the trouble of finding something nice to say about you to neutralize the whole situation.
Don’t Underestimate Praise
Now we come to what things to say to make women laugh. The idea is not to make women laugh by pointing out to some anomaly or latent defect. Instead, you should try to find humor that is incidental or that seems out of the ordinary and cannot be helped or avoided. It is a good idea to compliment a woman’s beauty by saying something flattering that is also humorous. For instance, when you introduce yourself to a woman you find beautiful, you could say something like, “After seeing you, I would like to buy an island and name it after you, the Goddess of Beauty.” The idea is to say something that is witty and has a deeper meaning so that the person you speak to takes some time to process its meaning. This way, you get more time to plan the future conversation and adjust your response.
Demonstrate Your Wit and Optimism
If you are attending a tediously dry speech or function and you realize the woman sitting next to you is equally bored, you could say something like, “If you can pay so much attention to this speech, I have a few words to speak to you.” It is not simply enough to show that you are a witty and humorous person. You should also communicate the fact that you are personally interested in having a conversation with her and want to know her more. Otherwise, you are likely to be treated as an acquaintance or just another friendly guy.
Self-Deprecation Works
Self-deprecating humor is good when you make a mistake while speaking, such as forgetting a word or mispronouncing it. You could say something along the lines of, “I guess my mind is just too distracted by you.” Do not make too many references to her beauty or charm. It is true that women appreciate flattery and like to be courted. But if you sound too desperate she is going to be turned off. So you’re your humor balanced between the two extremes and you will be fine.
Backup Plans
Humor is a tricky thing and at times it could backfire. You do not have to come down too hard on yourself. Yes, the woman you are with will feel awkward for a while, but remember she is as involved in the conversation as you and will try to get it back on a comfortable track. On your part, you can use humor to defuse the situation and cooperate in her effort. Saying something like, “Isn’t that going to be a memorable last date?”
Finding things to say that make women laugh is largely a matter of understanding what women expect and how the deal with new experiences. It is also important to come across as a natural person and not adopt a forced persona. You don’t have to be Jerry Seinfeld or Jay Leno to get the women you want. Just use your own perspective to find humor in mundane, ordinary things and bring a fresh spin to it.
